Though a funeral service can be a fitting farewell to a deceased loved one, many of us are put off by the solemn emotions inherent in such occasions. It’s easy to feel uncomfortable or find yourself at a loss for words at a funeral. Still, attending a funeral is simpler than you think. Here’s a brief guide to proper funeral service etiquette:
- Expression of Sympathy
Many of us feel pressured to offer wisdom or advice to those our grieving friends. If you have a good piece of advice, that’s great; if you don’t, you shouldn’t worry about it. A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” is often enough. If the bereaved wants to speak with you about his feelings, you should be sure to listen carefully and offer the appropriate response, though silence is fine, too.
- Offering a Gift
If you feel as if the bereaved would appreciate a gift, you should bring one to the funeral. If you’re unsure of what sort of gift to bring, just bring flowers. You should also include a card, so the bereaved know who the gift is from.
- Respectful Silence
Before and after the funeral service, you should speak in a low voice and behave in a subdued manner. During the funeral service, you should give the speaker your undivided attention at all times and maintain respectful silence. If someone makes a joke or tells an amusing anecdote about the deceased, it’s okay to laugh.
- Dress Code
The dress code changes from funeral to funeral. Though simple, black clothing is traditional, funerals these days tend to be more open. If the dress code isn’t specified on the funeral announcement, you should wear a modest, semi-formal outfit with muted colors.
If you’ve recently lost a loved one in the Chicago area and need help planning a tasteful funeral service, contact Leak & Sons Funeral Homes. Whether you’re planning a traditional funeral, or a more casual memorial service, our respectful funeral directors can lend a hand. For more information, call us at (773) 846-6567.