The pallbearer serves the important role of carrying the casket at funeral services. There are usually six or eight total handles on a casket, which allows for one pallbearer for each handle. Typically pallbearers are family members or close friends of the deceased. It’s common for adult children, siblings, grown grandchildren, close friends, nieces, nephews, and colleagues to be asked to serve as pallbearers during a funeral service, but there are no rules on who can serve as a pallbearer. Being chosen as a pallbearer is an honor; but make sure to choose someone who is physically capable of carrying the casket. If you want to choose someone to be a pallbearer but have doubts about their ability to carry the casket, make them an honorary pallbearer instead; this way, they can walk beside the casket during the funeral service without carrying the casket.
Leak & Sons Funeral Homes of Chicago understands that planning a funeral can be overwhelming. We are here to help you with the pre-planning of funeral services if you need it. Simply call us at (773) 846-6567 or visit our website to speak with a compassionate and helpful member of our staff.
A eulogy gives you the opportunity to reflect on your loved one’s life and remind everybody about his or her best qualities. Many people say that writing a eulogy that incorporates personal memories is fairly easy. If you had an intense emotional connection with the deceased, however, delivering a eulogy with lots of personal memories is typically quite challenging. Watch the video clip for tips on how to incorporate your personal memories of your loved one into a eulogy.
Writing and delivering a eulogy is one of the central components of traditional funeral services. If you were asked to write a eulogy or want to know how to ask someone to deliver a eulogy at your loved one’s funeral, call Leak & Sons Funeral Homes in Chicago at (773) 846-6567.
Many adult siblings find that they become closer to each other following a parent’s death and subsequent funeral services. But others find that unresolved issues and past rivalries come to the surface. At Leak & Sons Funeral Homes, we would like to offer the following tips for avoiding sibling conflict following the loss of a parent.
In some families, parents serve as the middleman between siblings. In these families, one sibling shares news with the parents, then the parents share this news with the other siblings. Following the death of a parent within these families, the siblings tend to lose contact with one another. Calling or writing a message to siblings directly shows that you want to stay in touch. Don’t be discouraged if your efforts are met with little response initially; new routines take time to be adopted.
Show Appreciation for Your Sibling’s Efforts
If you want a more positive dynamic to come from your sibling relationships, you must make an effort. You need to also recognize efforts your sibling has made, as this is very important for neutralizing conflict.
Step Outside Your Role
Lots of siblings grow up feeling like they have a role in the family. As an adult, these roles can cause resentment and tension. Step out of your role to offer assistance and gratitude. Give your siblings an apology for any responsibility you had in causing your siblings stress, whether it was decades ago or a rift that occurred before or after the funeral services. In many cases it can be helpful to seek the service of a mediator or counselor. Going through past issues can help foster perspective and empathy.
Dealing with loss typically involves tension of some sort. At Leak & Sons Funeral Homes of Chicago, we want to help in any way that we can. In addition to our funeral memorial services, we offer grief and support services. Call us at (773) 846-6567 or browse our website for more information.
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