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Losing a child always leaves parents facing profound grief. Often, the hardest part of losing a child comes after the memorial service, when friends and family begin to return to their own normal lives. The sense of loss can be overwhelming, but seeking support can help. Here are a few ways grieving parents can work through mourning and process their loss:
Talk About Your Needs
Grief is personal. Asking for support and help in the exact way you need it is OK. If you simply want someone to listen to you without offering any advice, say so. If you prefer not to discuss the subject of your loss unless you bring it up, let your friends and family know. You also shouldn’t shy away from asking for the practical support you need, like help making dinners, running errands, or cleaning up the house. Many people shut down while grieving because the support they are getting doesn’t meet their needs. Understand that your supporters want to help you in the best way possible, so speak up about what you need.
Rely On Each Other
The loss of a child can place a heavy toll on a relationship. Focus on coming together as a couple instead of isolating your grief. Allow each other to have different grieving styles, and avoid assigning blame. If you have other children, staying engaged as a couple and as parents is even more important and can be a significant facet of recovery for your entire family.
Counseling can be a very powerful tool in coping with the loss of a child. Consider attending a counseling session alone and as a family. A counselor can provide you with valuable tools you can use to work through the process of mourning.
Leak & Sons Funeral Homes in Chicago is here to help your family in your time of need. We can plan a fitting funeral or memorial service for your lost loved one, and our funeral home can help you find resources for grief counseling. Learn about all of our services, including funeral pre-planning, by calling (877) 265-0352.
Last updated 7 days ago
Grieving is a very personal process. Most people understand that everyone grieves a little differently. What may be more difficult to process, however, are people who do not seem to grieve at all after a loss, even at the funeral service. It’s natural to make assumptions about someone who shows a lack of grief. You may suspect he or she is holding it all inside or that he or she didn’t care about the deceased person as much as others. However, there may be a different answer that explains the behavior of someone who does not show grief after a loss. Here is a look at the different types of grief and why some people seem to be immune to the process of mourning.
Types of Grief
People experience grief in several different ways. For some people, the sense of loss is overpowering. For these people, grief may significantly interrupt their lives, and they may continue to experience feelings of grief and associated depression for several years after the loss. Other people experience a temporary kind of grief that involves sadness and distress right after the loss but also a return to a happier state of being within about a year. For other people, there is no disruption of normal functioning. These people don’t display symptoms of grief and don’t allow a loss to interfere with their lives.
Lack of Grief
People who don’t experience grief have in the past been considered cold, or their lack of grief was assumed to be a comment on their feelings for the person who passed. However, researchers have found evidence that people who don’t grieve are instead innately resilient. These people may actually enter the grieving process more equipped to cope in a healthy way.
There is no right way or wrong way to mourn a lost loved one. At Leak & Sons Funeral Homes of Chicago, we can help you find grief support as you adjust to your loss. We also offer memorial service planning, funeral pre-planning, and much more. Call our funeral home today at (877) 265-0352.
Last updated 14 days ago
It is not always easy to know what to wear to a funeral. Many people wonder if wearing black is a requirement and how formally dressed they should be. This video helps clear up some of the confusion about proper funeral attire.
Wearing black to a funeral is traditional in many cultures. Jackets and ties are appropriate for men. However, some families choose to veer away from tradition and actually prefer casual or brightly colored clothing to be worn, to give the ceremony less of a somber feel. The easiest way to know exactly what to wear is to contact the funeral director or family for advice.
At Leak & Sons Funeral Homes, we can help you make necessary funeral planning decisions and field queries from your attendees about the service. In your time of need, contact our full-service funeral home in Chicago for assistance. You can reach us at (877) 265-0352.
Last updated 20 days ago
Grief is something that each person experiences differently, but few people can grieve in a vacuum. Most people find that it helps to talk to other people about their feelings. While friends and family can be a great support system, it is also helpful to talk about grief with other people who share similar experiences or who are currently working through their own grief. This is where a grief support group can enter the picture.
Don’t shy away from seeking help from a support group because you’re not sure what to expect. Although each group functions a little differently, there are a few general things that tend to be the same. Most groups open up the floor for discussion, and attendees are free to share as much or as little about their feelings as they want. You aren’t obligated to share—sometimes listening to the experiences of other people living with grief can be enormously beneficial.
Leak & Sons Funeral Homes can help you find grief counseling and grief support groups in Chicago as you mourn your loss. For help with everything from funeral planning to cremation services, call us at (877) 265-0352.
Last updated 28 days ago
When you are planning a funeral, it is important to select appropriate burial attire for your loved one. When you are choosing burial attire, you may want to select items of clothing that hold a special meaning. For example, you may want to select a favorite outfit, uniform, or clothing that was worn on a special occasion. It is also appropriate to purchase new clothing for the burial. Choosing burial attire can be a helpful step in the grieving process, and can also be a special way to honor the memory of your loved one.
For assistance with your funeral planning needs, do not hesitate to contact Leak & Sons Funeral Homes. We provide the Chicago area with a complete range of funeral services, including traditional funerals, custom funerals, cremations, and more. To learn more about the quality services we have to offer you in your time of grief, call us today at (877) 265-0352.